Dr Wayne Dyer says Excuses Begone!
How to Change Lifelong Self Defeating Thinking Habits
Jun 22, 2009
Following on from the first part of this exclusive interview, on the 22nd of June 2009, Dr Wayne Dyer talked to Amanda Woods about his newly released book, Excuses Begone! and shares the secrets of breaking self defeating habits.
Suite101: How can people retrain their brains to let go of excuses?
Dr Wayne Dyer: In my book I detail seven questions that allow people to challenge and change their lifelong, self-defeating thinking patterns. For instance one question asks, ‘What’s the payoff?’ Your answer to this will give you insight into the reward system you’ve carefully constructed.
It’s the reason you can reach into your bag of excuses and pull out some real gems whenever it’s convenient. And the fact that these thought patterns have been with you for most of your life makes them almost automatic responses.
Take a moment now to reflect on why your thoughts might sustain behaviors that don’t serve your highest ideals. William Wordsworth, the insightful English poet, once remarked: “Habits rule the unreflecting herd,” with herd being used as a pejorative term for thinking like everyone else.
Your goal is to disrupt those habits that have led you to act like just one more member of the obedient pack, and that requires a new kind of understanding. Such understanding may be more accessible now than in the first part of your life, which was when you tended to form and accumulate your habits.
Suite101: How long does it take for people to change their old ways of thinking and eliminate excuses?
Dr Wayne Dyer: However long it takes for them to be willing to change their self-limiting beliefs.
Whatever it is that you’d like to accomplish, be it becoming an artist, creating your own musical composition, starting a new business, repairing your relationship with your parents or spouse or anyone else, building a new home, getting into physical shape—anything at all—how would your world change if you couldn’t even conceive of the idea that it would be difficult and/or take a long time?
Rather than focusing on what you can’t do because it’s difficult and takes a long time, you’d think like this:
'This is definitely something that I can and will create for myself. I know I can do anything I put my mind to. I anticipate that this is within my ability to readily accomplish. I have no fear, because I recognise that whatever guidance and assistance I require is available.
I’m excited, thrilled, and elated about fulfilling this dream. I realise that the thoughts I have are meshed with enthusiasm and passion, and that nothing can stop me. In fact, I’m certain that whatever I need to actualise my dreams is already on its way. I contentedly watch for what the universe sends me.'
Suite101: What sort of results have you seen from working with people who are willing to let go of their excuses?
Dr Wayne Dyer: I’ve seen many people living a more content, fulfilled and purposeful life. They now bask in the belief that they possess all of the physical and intellectual abilities they could ever need. Their lives flow naturally from a position of supreme confidence in themselves and their God-given, natural abilities.
They take risks and are capable of trying anything, content with whatever results come out of it. They exude courage because they’d be unable to manufacture doubtful thoughts that manifested as excuses. They now never compare themselves to others or evaluate their abilities on the basis of what others do—how they measure up to the performance levels of others would have no bearing on them or what they attempt.
Read more of Dr. Wayne Dyer's tips on defeating excuses
Excuses Begone! How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer is published by Hay House and available at all leading retailers.
ISBN: 9781401922948; ISBN 978-1-4019-2173-6
Readers might also enjoy learning about Jerry and Esther Hicks' new book, The Vortex.
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